Change Agent

I woke up around 5am, made my tea, and went outside to write by candlelight. At 6:40 a rooster began crowing, then as the low, somewhat mournful, sound of the train whistle bellowed down in The Valley, a full choir of birds joined their voices in “The Song of The Morning”. Through the branches of the […]

Zen vs. Clutter

Setting The Stage Take a moment and imagine living in an environment that would make your heart sing—a home that you couldn’t wait to get back to; a place that accurately reflects who you are (now, not twenty years ago);  a physical space that creates a feeling of calm and peace. What does that look […]

Going Home

Today, I want to tell you a story about a little girl who was born in Wales, Great Britain in the 1930s. She lived with her family in a thatch-roofed cottage on a rocky shoreline, where they had a very simple life—moving through each day the same as the one before. There were seven children and […]

Givers and Takers

When I was in my late twenties, the man I worked for said something that has stayed with me all these decades: “In this world, there are givers and takers. My wife is a giver, I am a taker and you, Kay, are a giver.” I remember feeling proud of that title. It felt like […]

Yesterday’s Tomorrows

“Tomorrow […] comes into us at midnight very clean. It’s perfect when it arrives and puts itself in our hands. It hopes we learned something from yesterday.” Marion Robert Morrison (John Wayne)   “Tomorrow, I’ll take better care of myself.” “Tomorrow, I’ll make smarter choices.” “Tomorrow, I’ll get enough sleep.” “Tomorrow, I’ll pursue healthier relationships.” “Tomorrow, I’ll […]

Premeditated Kindness

We often have a myopic view of the world, which limits us from “seeing” outside our own—frequently very limited—life. This narrow perspective leads to behavior that can be anything from inconsiderate to downright mean. We get so caught up in our reality that we don’t “see” how we sometimes behave. I truly believe that “nice” is underrated. I also believe […]

Socks & Peace & 28°

awareness As I back the car out of the garage, the thermometer moves down to 28°. I’m aware that as winter progresses I adapt to the cold. What would have been shocking in the middle of July is now simply part of the ebb and flow of the season. I get used to it. It […]

The Light

the burgeoning light beckons to you but it can’t come in. you’ve closed the door, pulled the shades over the windows, closed your heart first, then your mind, then your spirit to the possibility of possibilities. the heartbreak, the disappointment, the pain, the abandonment created a less-than you, a you that does not trust, but […]

Intentional Resolutions

For some people, “New Year’s Resolutions” are a typical part of the winding down of one calendar year and moving onto the next. For others, resolutions have never been a part of their lives. For many of us, it’s haphazard. Some years we’re “all in”—creating a list of what we want to change or accomplish; what we […]

‘Twas the Day After Christmas

‘Twas the day after Christmas and all through the place, the din of the last day, now a quieter space. The presents are stacked, although all now unwrapped, and the family—well, they really could use a nap. The children were playing with all their new toys, while they remembered gladly the fun and the noise. We sat with […]

The Present of Presence

It’s six days before Christmas. Emails regarding last-minute presents flood our in-boxes. Anyone we’ve ever purchased anything from has exactly what we need to finish our shopping! Mall parking lots are packed with cars. Stores have long lines. Frustrated, and sometimes frantic, consumers are trying to find: the right gift, the perfect gift, the gift that says, “yes I do pay […]

Christmas Lights and Silent Nights

Yesterday, I sent two texts to my husband and daughters. The first one said, “I have to cancel family dinner for tonight and next week. I need to catch up on work, clean, finish projects, shop, wrap (etcetera, etcetera, etcetera)”. In the second one I wrote, “Made a mistake. Forgot what really matters. Will have […]

Mourning Losses/Morning Losses

On a Wednesday morning a few months ago I sat at the table, my notebook in front of me, a stack of books on my left and big, hot tears running down my face. I was thinking about my granddaughter and how, due to an amazing advance in eye care, her rapidly worsening eye disease […]

Thankful

Giving thanks or being thankful is something we hear about often. But, in spite of that repetition, how often do we truly give thanks? Depending on where you live “thankful” is not only expressed differently, it’s felt differently. Many of us have the privilege of being able to be thankful for people who love us, good health, financial stability, a […]

Embracing & Letting Go

In the quest for peace full living, we have to embrace all of life—not just the parts that are amazing or delightful or make us happy. For some of us that awareness can be a tough pill to swallow. For a long time I believed that if I just shoved the bad away—then buried it […]

Guilty As Charged

Many people—who have never spent a day behind bars—live in self-imposed prisons where they intend to serve out life sentences. Sometimes that’s because they’ve committed a heinous crime and, although not “found out”, they know what they’ve done and choose lifetime penitence. Some have been imprisoned by the words of others, when they’ve been told that […]

Moment By Moment

It was a quiet house this past weekend and on Saturday evening, my daughter, Erin came up so we could watch a movie together. It was a real tearjerker with an outcome we didn’t immediately anticipate. At the end we were both sobbing; a moment shared as we looked at reality through a different lens. […]

Sisterhood

A sisterhood has traditionally been a community of nuns or other religious women. A sisterhood is also a group of women who are bound together through shared experiences, who—with a desire to live fully into their lives—are intentional about creating connections. Today, I’m going to write about the latter. This past weekend my faith community held a […]

Finding Joy

Where do you find joy? Why does joy often seem so elusive? What is joy? “Joy” and “happiness” are not the same. Happiness is a response to something. We experience feeling happy when we’re having fun, spending time with people who make us smile, watching a funny movie, taking a vacation in a place we love, or even completing […]

The Magic of Life

For the past eight days I’ve been almost entirely absent from email, texts and phone calls. For some people, that would be catastrophic. For me, it was a reminder of how life used to be—when connecting with others, not physically with you, required sending mail or using a phone connected to a wall. Obviously, there are […]