(continued from “Moving From Overwhelmed to Serene and Peaceful, Part I”)
When you’re overwhelmed, and life is exhausting, you need to “step aside” for a while by moving away from environments or relationships that impede you from living into your highest self. There are also things you may have to “set aside” like fear, anger, or challenges that, right now, seem insurmountable. Stepping aside or setting aside is not the same as failing or giving up—they’re opportunities for creating spaces where we take the time we need to think and regroup.
1. First, acknowledge what’s overwhelming—what’s slowly chipping away at your spirit and psyche. Is it a job, relationship, material things, or a lack of them? Is it COVID-19, a health challenge or concern for someone you love? Name it.
2. Once you identify the root of your challenges, list possible options that could help. If the difficulty is in an area of life that’s impossible to change—at least right now—like an overfull house, move forward with ideas of how you can change that as soon as possible. Tap into your inner resources to make sure that you value yourself enough not to allow people or possessions to absorb your power.
3. Make the time to discover who you are outside the life roles you play.
4. Build relationships with people you can reach out to for support, encouragement, and love without strings attached, even if they can’t be with you in person right now.
5. Be truthful with yourself and recognize if you’re doing any self-sabotaging.
6. If your home, the place that should be your respite from the world, isn’t peaceful, decide what you need to change there. It’s challenging to be serene if the place you live isn’t.
So, where do “serene” and “peaceful” come into the picture? Serenity— calmness, and stillness, is the opposite of overwhelmed and agitated.
Peacefulness—harmony and tranquility, is contrary to discord and frustration.
Calmness, stillness, overwhelmedness, agitation, harmony, tranquility, discord, frustration—I’ve experienced all of these. But, as I continue to work on wrapping my life in serenity and peace, I have more of those experiences.
“The Serenity Prayer,” written by Reinhold Niebuhr, ties in with views of Aristotle; the difference between “things not up to us” (ta ouk Eph’ hemin) and “things up to us” (ta Eph’ hemin). This philosophy is a core component of an ancient Greek principle—the goal of a “good life” is the attainment of serenity.
The Serenity Prayer (the section most well-known)
God, grant me the
serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
courage to change the things I can, and
wisdom to know the difference.
Especially in times like this, when COVID-19 has profoundly changed our realities, we need to be intentional about seeking both serenity and peacefulness
The Peacefulness Prayer
God, grace me with the
peacefulness to accept the world as it is right now,
bravery to overcome my fear and challenges and
insight to know when I need to leave it in Your hands.
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