Many of us run through life, like a child in a proverbial candy store—grabbing this and that experience, not really tasting all the “flavors”—simply consuming life.
When we’re racing through experiences, we aren’t fully participating in them. We’re simply snapping screen shots as we jump from one thing to another. Because there’s so much going on, we don’t immerse ourselves in any one thing.
We may be afraid that if we don’t “do it all” then we’re not getting enough. It’s more likely, however, that when we try to do it all, we only get bits and pieces—not the true essence of anything.
I rarely become impatient with others, but sometimes I’m unwilling to offer myself the same grace. Without even immediately being aware of it, my mind starts questioning:
“Why am I not getting as many words written as I “should” each day for the book?”
“When am I going to finish the office project?”
“Why haven’t I read all the literature that’s queued up on my desk?”
“When am I going to work on the program theme?”
My friend, Dan lives differently than most people I know. He’s been through a lot more “stuff” than many of us, including a very rocky start to life and the deaths of both his wife and son.
In spite of—and probably also because of—all he’s lived through, Dan is fully “in” each experience he has, whether that’s fishing for salmon in Alaska, helping others through spiritual direction, playing cards with friends, or going about his day-to-day work routine. He knows his “higher calling” and he is at peace with the process. Dan is my role model for patience.
When we’re impatient for change or growth (or with another person) we’re telling the universe, on a basic level, that we’re not happy with—satisfied with—our lives. Often, that dissatisfaction is a signal for us to shake things up and reconsider what we want to do with our time on this planet. Other times, it’s simply us being impatient—unwilling to wait; wanting to run ahead of life.
The instant gratification world we live in, encourages us to believe that everything should happen almost instantaneously—like going through a drive-thru and being handed a bag of food, that can than be immediately consumed, while doing something else. Like a little child saying, “Are we almost there? Are we almost there yet? When are we going to get there!”, the excitement to reach the destination precludes enjoying the ride. We’re so anxious to get to the end that we miss the journey.
I really want to be in the “now”. That doesn’t mean that I can’t/won’t/don’t desire change. But, those changes don’t have to be bigger, brighter, shinier ways of life. They have to be things that are right for my life.
peace of mind
peace of spirit
peace of body
peace of space
It clears away the nebulous feelings of not knowing which way is “the” way, and opens the door to being fully present. What an amazing gift.
©2017 peace full home™/intentional living
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