According to Universe Today, “the modern form of humans evolved about 200,000 years ago”. Homo sapiens have been walking this planet for a very long time, and our “turn around the dance floor” is a minuscule blip on the wheel of life. We forget that we’re simply passing through (or passing back to the spirit side if your mindset is similar to mine). When we’re gone, how will we be remembered? What impression—other than a carbon footprint—will we leave on our world? What will our legacy be? Will we have mattered?

In the movie “The Good Dinosaur”, Arlo longs to make his mark, like his parents did. He faces a lot of challenges until he comes to the day where he does just that: he makes his physical mark on the family corn silo—he also makes his mark, in the lives of those around him, by his devotion and courage. The people I’ve loved and lost have left an imprint on my heart, each in a different, unique way, and on my more introspective days, I wonder, “will anyone miss me when I’m gone; do I matter”?

I once worked in a place where people were always posting photos of themselves with work “friends”, out doing work-related things, looking like they were having a great time. From what I knew of them personally, not too many of those relationships were actual friendships—it was more like show and tell. If you didn’t know them, you might guess they were “living the dream”; that the “friends” in the photos were so happy to be with them, and that they must really matter. If you ever find yourself in a place where you wish you “had a life like him or her”, remember this: what you’re seeing on social media sites isn’t always—and probably isn’t usually—a good snapshot of that person’s typical life. Sometimes those very people, who are smiling and laughing on the outside, are the ones whose lives are very empty on the inside.

A client, who immigrated to the USA, and I were talking about how much “stuff” most of us own, and she shared how different life was in her country of origin—how much less important the acquisition of things is—how much more important relationships and people are. We sometimes get so caught up in the “things of this world” that we forget who we are on a core level. We forget to remember what truly matters: relationships that are genuine, conversations that are meaningful, experiences that are shared, love that is offered freely.

German poet and philosopher Goethe wrote, “Things which matter most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least.” How often do we put the people or things that matter most at the bottom of the list?IMG_0321_2

When children are born, the fortunate ones are often held close and told something like, “I will protect you and nourish you and keep you from harm. I will love you forever”. The harsh reality is that every 11 seconds a child dies from hunger on a planet where some of us actually throw food away, and in our country alone there are almost 3 million reports of child abuse each year. How do those children grow up feeling as if they’re important? What do we stand up for? Who do we honor, protect and love? Who are we willing to show that they do matter?

Have you ever been in a position where someone you care about was sad or lonely or hurt? Have you ever witnessed someone being mistreated—treated like he or she doesn’t matter? Have you ever contributed to someone feeling that way? Have you ever felt like you “just don’t matter”?

Who can you tell, by the way you treat them, “you are special, you are important, you do have value”? Who can you say to—today—“you do matter to me”? To whom could you give:
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If you ever doubt your significance, please remember that even if you sometimes feel small, unappreciated, invisible or alone, you aren’t. You have value and worth. Someone does see you. You are special. You do have gifts that you bring to this world. You matter to me. Even if we never meet in person, I want to thank you. Thank you for the time you take to read this post. Thank you for being open to “thinking outside the box”. Thank you for walking alongside me on this journey.

©2016 Peace Full Home/Intentional Living



2 thoughts on “Mattering

  1. Thank you for the beautiful words. I know that so many people feel exactly like you have in the past—in it alone, sad, and not sure they have “value”. I agree with you, I do believe that things happen “when they should”, even if in our humanness it’s not on “our” schedule. Thank you for being part of the journey. ❤


  2. Kay, reading your blog today brought tears to my eyes .You put the things ,I am podering about in my mind ,in such beautiful words, which I am not capable off. I wish this would have been available to me a few years ago when I was really low and down, and had the feeling I had nobody to talk to and I did not matter anymore. I do believe that God brings people into our lives exactly at the right time, because his timing is impeccable.I feel blessed to be able to read your posts and soak up every word. Thank you Kay. Reading your blog makes a difference in my everyday life.


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