This simple seven-letter word sets the course for our lives.
We identify that we have to decide on something,
weigh “pros and cons”,
and then take action.
An awful lot of this goes on without us even being aware of it. Our conscious, and subconscious mind, uses past experiences (outcomes), intuition, preconceived ideas, and habits in the selection process. We often even begin with a mindset about what the “right” choice may be.
Selecting from different possibilities or options, creates a path—a movement in a particular direction. The process of choosing moves energy, and creates change, that sets what you want into motion.
Choices empower us, so you have to discern what you desire and require in your life. You need to be very clear about what you want the outcome to be. Sometimes decisions are really profound—where to live, what career to pursue, or who to spend your life with. Others are relatively minor—whether to have coffee or tea with breakfast, what shirt to wear, whether to go to the gym before or after work. In your home, you make selections every day—not only what to eat (or feed your family), but how much “stuff” you bring into your home, whether or not you watch TV (and how what you watch impacts your life), and how you treat the people you live with.
With each preference, we make one more statement about what we believe, and how we feel. Depending on what we select we may also push ourselves into affirming what’s important individually, confronting our fears, or acknowledging our weaknesses. The decisions that impact our lives the most are the tough ones, obviously, but all the little choices we make each day define who we are.
Because we have options so often (“should I have green or black tea?”, “should I leave for the meeting now?”, “should I write a note to a friend?”, “should I spend time with my child or watch a movie?”) we don’t always stop and think about the responsibility or the awesome privilege we have to be able to choose. Everything you pick, from the route you take to work, to where you live, how you dress, what you eat, and how you spend your time becomes part of the fabric of you. As Jean-Paul Sartre said, “You are your choices”.
There are BIG life decisions and there are tiny daily alternatives. Even choosing not to choose is a choice. We are conditioned to be reasonable, rational thinkers, so many of us don’t take a lot of risks. We often simply “manage” our lives instead of living our lives. We don’t allow ourselves to think outside the box because “What if I fail?” cripples us.
When what we’ve chosen doesn’t turn out the way we thought it would, instead of beating ourselves up, it’s critical to adopt a philosophy of “okay, that didn’t work, I’ll choose differently next time.”
Many of us are so afraid of making decisions that we’ve forgotten how to make choices. We dismiss our internal compass—our spirit. Instead of living deliberately, we listen to what everyone else—from a stranger on the internet to our family, friends and coworkers—tells us, rather than trust our own inner voice.
Would you choose to take the time to stop and think these questions over?
How do I choose to spend my money?
How do I choose to raise my children?
What do I choose to view as “entertainment”?
How do I choose to take care of myself?
How do I choose to treat others?
Who do I choose to spend my precious time with?
How do I choose to take care of my home?
How do I choose to stand up for myself?
When do I choose to slow down?
How do I choose to connect with my higher power?
How do I choose to honor my spirit?
We walk through this journey of life and sometimes,
as in Robert Frost’s “The Road Not Taken”,
we come to a fork where we can
choose to take “the road less traveled”.
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I-
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
What, from your past, influences the choices you make each day?
What do you choose for your life now?
What have you chosen in the past decade, year, month or week that hasn’t worked for what you choose for your life?
What choices can you make today to get closer to the reality that you desire?
©2014 peace full home™/intentional living
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