“I’m so glad I’m home!” That’s what I want you to experience each time you walk into your house. There should be a sense of relief and relaxation. Think about it as moving from driving in bumper-to-bumper traffic, with horns blaring, and your stress level at ten, to pulling onto a beautiful tree-lined street complete with birds chirping and the smell of honeysuckle wafting through your open windows.
Despite it being a room where chaos often reigns, your bedroom is one space that should really be an oasis and safe haven.
Remember, once you see something long enough, it becomes part of the backdrop, and that often happens in bedrooms. Of course, I see bedrooms that are tranquil and relaxing but, more often, they are anything but that! They’re used as gyms, offices, storage facilities, or TV rooms. Many times, I don’t see anything except clutter. They aren’t spaces that whisper, “come on in, relax, unwind.” Instead, they shout, “you’re not going to feel peaceful in here!” Many people drop a pile of clothing on a dresser, intending to put everything away later, but get tired, so it stays there. Eventually, you just don’t see it. The same goes for the magazines, books, crafts and office supplies, and that end up in the space. These, too, are examples of “The Sock on the TV Phenomenon.” Creating calm doesn’t just happen. It requires intentionality. Having a restful place to retreat to at the end of your day, or to take some time out is critical.
In addition to your bedroom being a calm and serene place, it’s essential to give yourself the gift of time alone. When living with others, you may need to be creative about setting aside time for solitude, because it’s unlike you’re going to hear, “you need some peace and quiet.” You have to make it happen.
Do you spend so much time rushing through your life “doing” that you never get to the “being”—especially alone? It’s vital to have a division between your “public” and our “private” self to feel like you’re in balance. Shutting off the outside world, if only for ten minutes each day, helps you connect with who you are at your core. Some people are afraid to be alone. In the constant din of other voices, they don’t have to listen to themselves. Spending intentional time alone can, at first, be like meeting a stranger and figuring out if you want him or her in your life. In creating your sanctuary space, you need to avoid the traps of thinking, “what should I be doing instead of sitting here?” or, “if I’m here hanging out with myself, what am I missing out on that others are doing?”
Rumi, a 13th-century theologian, and poet wrote, “a little while alone in your room will prove more valuable than anything else that could ever be given you.” I agree. So,
- Get rid of the clutter.
- Pare down what you have in your closets and dressers.
- Be discerning about what you put out on display; those items should be things that make you smile and bring you joy.
- Invest in good sheets—you really don’t need 4 sets.
- Put a small plant on a table.
- Get rid of all the electronics you can—yes, even the TV—they negatively affect sleep.
- Make your bedroom a priority and the most restful place you can.
Create a bedroom that you can walk in to and breath, so that you can “turn off” the outside world and enjoy your Peace Full Home.
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