I’m convinced “peaceful” doesn’t just happen, not with people or relationships or careers and definitely not with homes.
I know people who always seem frantic and stressed (and I’ve been there more often than I like to admit) and I know people who seem to actually “float” through their lives buoyed by an endless stream of good luck (hmmmm….maybe it’s them, right?). I see relationships that, at least from my perspective, seem so tumultuous that I wonder how those folks get through the day and I see people who truly seem to be “in the right place” with those they love. I know of so many people who would leave their jobs without any hesitation if they could swing it financially and I know the blessed few who genuinely love what they do each day. I also know too many people who live in homes that are so far from peaceful.
How do we create “peaceful?” How do we take the steps to move from frantic, stressful, scary, demoralizing, lonely, or exhausting to a home that’s filled with peace?
One of the things we brought from Larry’s house was a set of old, children’s blocks. I looked through the basket to see if I could find blocks to spell P E A C E F U L H O M E. I did. There were some green letters and a couple of brown and orange letters but weirdly (or not) all of the letters I needed were red, yellow or blue—primary colors (the “building blocks”) from which all other colors come. If you follow my design blog or have been in one of my classes, you know how much I love talking about color, and the power it has as a foundation in how your home “feels”. The irony of the primary color blocks was not lost on me!
What if we take it one block at a time? What if we create a space that has a dozen peaceful qualities?
P patient- with the people we love, with our limitations and especially with ourselves
E encouraging- giving confidence to others
A accepting- allowing people to really be “who they are”
C calm- creating a serene, uncluttered, tranquil space
E embracing- gladly accepting our differences
F faithful- to God, to our family, to our dreams
U understanding- compassionate and sympathetic
L loving- even (and especially) when it’s tough to be there
H healing- restoring soundness and safety to relationships
O open-minded- receptive to change, other views and other opinions
M meditative- contemplative, restful, and restorative
E enthusiastic- greeting each person and day with joy
With the end of 2013, I’m looking forward to a new calendar year and looking back at this one. My prayer for all of us is that, as we close this year, we think about how to build peace in our homes “one block at a time.”